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Many are the troubles of the just

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This excerpt from the Responsorial Psalm for the Friday of the Fourth Week of Lent is from Psalm 34:19-20;

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted;
and those who are crushed in spirit he saves.
Many are the troubles of the just man,
but out of them all the LORD delivers him.

Courtesy:  USCCB

Alcohol and addiction have broken you down; you are at your bottom: that place where you know that if you continue to drink it will kill you, but you know that if you stop drinking, the difficulty in coping without your crutch may only make you wish for death.

In looking at those options, you decide to choose the latter as that has some hope in it; hope for some kind of life.

At this time in your life, you were crushed in spirit; despairing of ever having a life that is respectable in some way. Perhaps not the one you dreamed of growing up, but a life that you’re not embarrassed about. 

Crushed in spirit, He reached down to you and saved your from the path you were on. You started a new life, perhaps with the aid of a recovery program, perhaps through a devotion to Matt Talbot or “just” using the Church and Her sacraments. Has life been all hummngbirds and marigolds? No, for many are the troubles of the just person, but out of them all the LORD delivers them. Just like He delivered you from the clutches of your addiction, He will deliver you from your troubles. Have faith (and patience) and make use of redemptive suffering: offer up your troubles and the pain they are causing you to the Lord for the redemption of not just yoiurself, but of others, too. 

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For you my soul is thirsting

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The excerpt from the First Psalmody from the Morning Prayer for the Liturgy of the Hours for the Solemnity of Saint Joseph, Spouse of the Blessed Virgin Mary is from Psalm 63:2;

O God, you are my God, for you I long;
for you my soul is thirsting.
My body pines for you
like a dry, weary land without water.
So I gaze on you in the sanctuary
to see your strength and your glory.

Courtesy: Divine Office,org:

THIS is the prayer we should have used when were were still enslaved by alcohol, when we desired nothing more that “just one more.” We should take our Catholic Bibles and mark the page this psalm is on, and whenever we “feel the urge” to “test the waters” again, Psalm 63:2 should set our soul aright and remind us of what should rightfully fill that “hole in the soul,” previously filled by the drink and the drug. 

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Come out, prisoners!

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The excerpt from the Reading for the Mass for Wednesday of the Fourth week of Lent is from Isaiah 49:9 and 15

Saying to the prisoners: Come out!

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This is God’s call to you still imprisoned by alcohol and drugs. 

Later on in the Reading, from Isaiah 49:15 God ensures you:

Can a mother forget her infant, be without tenderness for the child of her womb? Even should she forget, I will never forget you.

Come on out, recover your truer self, the person you were meant to be. Or, if you still feel the pull, recall “what it was like.” Your worst day in recovery is better than the best day you had drunk.

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Discover the importance of the Real Presence, the Rosary, the Stations of the Cross, St. Joseph, St. Therese (the “Little Flower”) and Matt Talbot. You’ll get ideas on how to apply the Beatitudes, the Divine Mercy Message, as well as learning about the Apparitions of Our Lady at Guadalupe, Lourdes and Fatima and how they can guide one’s life.

“The Sober Catholic Way” is a basic handbook on how anyone can live a sober life. This book does not guarantee anything, but doing these things have helped the author keep his sobriety intact since May 22, 2002. Will he ever drink again? Quite unlikely, but the tools to help recover from a relapse are in every chapter! The love and mercy of God is everlasting and endless!

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Next up: and this is especially good for Lent, is “The Stations of the Cross for Alcoholics,” which is a book that is rooted in an ancient Catholic devotion. It is intended to assist Catholics and other Christians find deeper meaning in their struggles with alcoholism, by connecting the oftentimes hard road of sobriety with Jesus’ suffering road to His Crucifixion. The reader sees that their old alcoholic ‘self’ is being led to the Cross and the joy of eventual resurrection of a new sober self can follow. Whether they are still drinking and struggling, or have been sober for many years and still have difficulties coping with sobriety, this book should help readers maintain that sobriety.

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Lastly is: “The Recovery Rosary: Reflections for Alcoholics and Addicts,” which helps people to reflect on their recovery and relationships with others, and ultimately with Jesus Himself. Whether people are still struggling with their addictions, or have been clean and sober for a few weeks, months, or years, the reflections will lead them to meditate on the spiritual growth they have achieved so far.

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The book takes a time-honored prayer and brings it into a useful format for people to pause and reflect on their recovery, their relationships with others, and ultimately with Jesus Himself. Whether people are still struggling with their addictions, or have been clean and sober for a few weeks or months, or many years, the reflections for each Mystery of the Rosary will help them meditate on the spiritual growth they have achieved so far. Over the years, their thoughts on each meditation may change, depending on “where they’re at” in their recovery journey.

Available through links found here: “The Recovery Rosary: Reflections for Alcoholics and Addicts”

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God is our refuge and our strength, an ever-present help in distress.

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The excerpt from the Responsorial Psalm for the Mass on Tuesday of the Fourth Week of Lent (Psalm 46:2):

God is our refuge and our strength, an ever-present help in distress.

Courtesy USCCB

Just a friendly reminder that no matter how chaotic the world is, or how chaotic our personal  life is, God does not abandon us. It may seem like it,  and when that happens, we must seek Him out with ever more desire for His comfort and His grace. They are always available when things get crazy. Recall all the times in the past when it seemed that ‘all was lost.’ And yet you got through it. You will again. If there is an Adoration Chapel near you, or a parish with Euscharistic Adoration, perhaps now is ia good time to visit. Jesus is there, and oasis of calm in a stormy, chaotic existence.

In Chapter 2 “Adore Jesus in the Blessed Sacrament” of my book, The Sober Catholic Way, I wrote a poem (of sorts:)

You are little…the World prefers big.
You are humble… the World demands pride.
You are still… the World is fast.
You are helpless… the World honors the strong.
You are mercy… the World teaches revenge.
You are forgiveness… the World nurtures resentment.
You are quiet… the World blares noise.
You are peace…the World is at war.
You are sacred… the World is profane.
You are trust… the World is in fear.
You are meek… the World encourages arrogance.

Go and see Him in the quiet of the chapel.

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I have a new book! "The Sober Catholic Way" is a handbook on how anyone can live a sober life, drawn from over 17 years of SoberCatholic posts! It's out now on "Amazon," "Apple Books," "B&N" and and others!"!

My two other books are still available! "The Stations of the Cross for Alcoholics" and "The Recovery Rosary: Reflections for Alcoholics and Addicts" (Thank you!!)

The LORD looks into the heart

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This excerpt from the First Reading for the Mass of the Fourth Sunday of Lent is taken from 1 Samueal 16:7.

Not as man sees does God see, 
because man sees the appearance 
but the LORD looks into the heart.”

Courtesy: USCCB

I just love this. People habitually see just the exterior: a person’s race, gender, economic status, health. But God sees the whole person, and He knows the underlying causes for the exterior appearances judged by others. 

It’s shame that people cannot do similar; while we can never see into the heart of someone, we can look at other people and not just see them as typical representatives of their race or gender; or we can choose to not see them as an objective thing to use or judge or disregard.

This is a common theme in my book, Building a Civilization of Love: a Call to Creative Catholics:

 

 

Building a Civilization of Love: A Call to Creative Catholics is a call to arms, or rather, a call to pens, paintbrushes, and video cameras, for creative Catholics to take up St. Maximilian Maria Kolbe’s call to infiltrate pop culture and help alleviate the ills that pervade contemporary society. St. Maximilian saw back in the 1920s how the use of cinema, radio, and mass-market books was corrupting society. He thought that those same tools could be used as a countercultural force to overcome this corruption.

Furthermore, it explains through the example of three critical apparitions of the Blessed Virgin Mary at Guadalupe, Lourdes, and Fatima how she herself suggested strategies and alternatives to the dehumanizing and increasingly pagan contemporary culture we have today.

Building a Civilization of Love: A Call to Creative Catholics concludes by showing how the Catholic Faith can be used to provide a road map out of our current morass and a blueprint to build a more just and fair society constructed according to the Gospel of Jesus Christ, the Corporal and Spiritual Works of Mercy and other elements of traditional Catholic Social Teachings.

“Chapter III: Following Mary’s Example” dives into this.

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He will bind our wounds

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This excerpt from the First Reading for the Mass for Saturday of the Third Week of Lent is from Hosea 6:1

Come, let us return to the LORD,
it is he who has rent, but he will heal us;
he has struck us, but he will bind our wounds.

Courtesy: USCCB

That’s what Lent is all about! It is a time for returning to the Lord; we come to Him broken and wounded from our sins and from all the times we have abandoned Him. If God seems far away, it was you that moved! Go to Confession this weekend; maybe start spending the rest of Lent reading a good spiritual book. Regardless, there is no sin so great that God cannot forgive it; nothing is beyond His Divine Mercy.

Take your wounds to Jesus in the Sacrament of Confession and he will bind them in His Mercy.

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Anxious concern

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From the Reading from the Evening Prayer of the Liturgy of the Hours for Wednesday of the Third Week of Lent:

Work with anxious concern to achieve your salvation. It is God who, in his good will toward you, begets in you any measure of desire or achievement. In everything you do, act without grumbling or arguing; prove yourselves innocent and straightforward, children of God beyond reproach. (Philippians 2:12b-15a)

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“Work with anxious concern to achieve your salvation.” No one’s salvation is guaranteed. We can never really be sure with absolute certitude. Given the stakes of eternity, that’s a big deal. “Once Saved, Always Saved” is a heresy, and given its presumption of God’s Mercy, a sure pathway to Hell. 

“It is God who, in his good will toward you, begets in you any measure of desire or achievement.” God loves you and wants you with Him forever. Not many say that about you. Therefore, He instills or creates in you (begets) the desire to gain Heaven. This is through the graces He freely sends you; your cooperation with those graces determines the eventual outcome. 

“In everything you do, act without grumbling or arguing; prove yourselves innocent and straightforward, children of God beyond reproach.” This is self-explanatory: the inner serenity that you should have as being a child of God should affect your behavior. It should be beyond reproach when compared to seculars.

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Grumbling for water

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For the Third Sunday of Lent, there’s this excerpt from the First Reading from today’s Mass (Exodus 17:3):

In those days, in their thirst for water,
the people grumbled against Moses,
saying, “Why did you ever make us leave Egypt?
Was it just to have us die here of thirst
with our children and our livestock?”

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When I read that, it immediately struck me as a bunch of people on the verge of relapsing. Well, they were, in a way: they longed for the food security of Egypt, completely disregarding the slavery they experienced there. Dosn’t this sound like a relapse episode? You have been free of the practice of your addiction for some time now; enjoying to varying degress of success your new life. But something bad has happened. Your first major setback and now your new coping skills are lacking and you long for the false security and refuge of your formwr way of life. 

This invariably leads to the Gospel reading of John 4:5-42; also known as the “Woman at the Well” story. I will not show the entire reading here, since you should have gone to Mass, or you can just grab your Catholic Bible and read it at your convenience. But you probably know the story about how Jesus converts the sinful woman he found at the well of Jacob, as well as the village, by promising the “Living Water” of His Gospel and His future Church and Her sacraments.

There it is, right in front of you: two choices. If you are in danger of relapsing or you think you might be at risk in the future, the choices are stark. The “Dying Water” of your addiction versus the “Living Water” of the Gospel and the Church’s sacramental life. Lent is a time for reconnecting what you’ve either lost or become inattentive to. This is the theme of many Lenten social media posts and podcasts. Lent puts you back on the track of getting closer to Jesus. You can’t get closer than getting Him in the sacraments. The Eucharist is literally His Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity; Confession is literally coinfessing yur sins to Jesus (through a priest, but Jesus forgives your through that priest.)

Spend time in Church this Lent. Go the Mass on Sundays (it’s an obligation on the pain of mortal sin unless you have an unavoidable obstacle such as health, weather, or transportation issues) and even weekdays if possible. Go to Confession more often than you do outside of Lent. Read a good spiritual book.

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My two other books are still available! "The Stations of the Cross for Alcoholics" and "The Recovery Rosary: Reflections for Alcoholics and Addicts" (Thank you!!)

Declare your sins to one another

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The Reading from the Evening Prayer in the Liturgy of the Hours for Friday in the 2nd week of Lent is:

Declare your sins to one another, and pray for one another, that you may find healing. The fervent petition of a holy man is powerful indeed. My brothers, the case may arise among you of someone straying from the truth, and of another bringing him back. Remember this: the person who brings a sinner back from his way will save his soul from death and cancel a multitude of sins. (James 5:16, 19-20)

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Lent is upon us! Many parishes have Lenten penance services scheduled so that people have easy access to a priest to confess the sins they’ve been shedding all season. Usually there’s an abundance of priests from all over. Perfect time to confess to a priest who doesn’t know you all of those embarassing peccadilloes you’re ashamed to confess to your regular confessor. PRO TIP: your regular confessor “has heard it all before” and likely isn’t surprised by anything; so, if you missed the penace service or if there isn’t one, apart from travelling to a different parish, just suck it up and go to Confession this weekend at your parish! Try to go more than you normally do outside of Lent. Pope St. John Paul II suggested long ago that Catholics who wish to progress spiritually should go to Confession at least once a month. 

Another thing you can do: start a Catholic spirituality blog, podcast or YouTube Channel. Talk about hown the Catholic faith and her sacraments, the Mass, prayers and devotions can assist anyone in growing closer to God. You can even clear the way for your eventual death and enter Heaven. “Remember this: the person who brings a sinner back from his way will save his soul from death and cancel a multitude of sins.” Just make sure you know what you’re talking about and it’s Catholic teachings you’re promoting, not your own masquerading as Catholic. There’s too much masquerading going around.

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Return to me with your whole heart

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The reading from the Morning Prayer from the Liturgy of the Hours for Tuesday of the Second Week of Lent is from Joel 2:12-13.

Return to me with your whole heart,
with fasting, and weeping, and mourning;
Rend your hearts, not your garments,
and return to the Lord, your God.
For gracious and merciful is he,
slow to anger, rich in kindness,
and relenting in punishment.

This is not just the essence of Lent, but the meaning of addiction recovery itself as we proceed down the path towards freedom. 

 

Return to me with your whole heart: replace the hole in your soul that was previously occupied by your addiction with God.

With fasting, and weeping, and mourning: Shed the desirw for alcoho or drugs, repent and have remorse for your sins.

Rend your hearts, not your garments: Practice deep, interior conversion rather than outward signs of ‘spritual progress.’

And return to the Lord, your God: pretty much what it says. Come home to the Father like the Prodigal Son did.

For gracious and merciful is he: God loves a repentant soul and He will shower you with the graces you need to tay on the path, and if you are truly repentant and confess your sins, you will be forgiven.

Slow to anger, rich in kindness, and relenting in punishment: as I said earlier in Gracious and merciful is he, 

He is gracious, merciful, slow to anger (likely due to He knows we are weak and frail,) rich in kindness and will relent in His punishments. All we need to do is truly come to terms with our sins, see them in light of the eternity that awaits us, and cast off the behavior that separates us from Him. And when we do that, He will open His arms wide to embrace us.

I have a new book! "The Sober Catholic Way" is a handbook on how anyone can live a sober life, drawn from over 17 years of SoberCatholic posts! It's out now on "Amazon," "Apple Books," "B&N" and and others!"!

My two other books are still available! "The Stations of the Cross for Alcoholics" and "The Recovery Rosary: Reflections for Alcoholics and Addicts" (Thank you!!)