How often do you pray and go to Church? Part 1

Quite often in the 12 Step meetings that I attended years ago some newcomer would ask the question as to how many meetings they should attend. Some old timer would ask:

“Well, how often did you drink?”

The newcomer responded, “Every day.”

The oldster replied, “Then go to meetings every day. If you drank every day, then you can go to meetings every day.”

The idea is that as often as you flooded your mind with alcoholic and addictive thoughts, you can now flood your mind with 12 Step principles and meeting discussions and fellowship. As much time as you gave your drinking, you can give to your recovery.

OK, if you read this blog often enough and perhaps are even a member of Catholic Recovery, you somehow arrived at the notion that your Catholic Faith may have some hand in keeping you sober and clean. But can it provide the all the tools necessary to keep you sober?

For the intentions of this post, and follow-ups, I won’t touch upon the nature of the Church Jesus founded, nor any theology or other “high concepts.” Just the bare bones basics of the possibility that your life is not what it could be. There’s something missing. Sure, you attend your regular AA meetings, you talk to your sponsor, (or maybe are one yourself). You go to Sunday Mass and are generally “Catholic”. But there’s a hole and an emptiness. You feel that your life as you’re living it is something less than it can be.

So, like the title of this post suggests, “How often do you pray and go to Church?” It isn’t as easy a question as you might think. This is particularly true if your Catholic education stopped when you received the Sacrament of Reconciliation or graduated from high school. Basically, teenage years. Your concept of God probably stopped developing at that point. You figure that putting your hour of Church in once a week (or so), praying to Jesus or maybe Mary when you’re in a jam, is enough. But now you’re sensing that isn’t quite true.

Now I ask the question, or rather reframe the question in the title, “How do you live the life of the Church?”

The life of the Church is marked by prayer and the liturgy. The Sacraments are Her lifeblood. How often do you explore and partake of them?

I will continue this in Part 2.

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Discontinuing most advertising on Sober Catholic

No one has ever commented or emailed displeasure with the Google AdSense advertising that I had been running on this blog, but nevertheless I have decided to discontinue it for a variety of reasons.

One: I wasn’t making any money off of it. Less than $20 in the past year. There is a correlation between traffic and ad clicking, and while I have decent readership, I guess hardly anyone was clicking on the ads. This is fine as I rarely do that myself on other people’s blogs.

Two: the ads may have been misleading or offensive. Quite often they were about alcohol and addiction treatment program (obviously, they were generated based on post content) or on something “Catholic-y”. The misleading aspect is that the ads may have offered information opposed to the goals of this blog, and the offensive aspect may be that some of the “Catholic-y” ads may have been created by anti-Catholic bigots. Quite often this is done by bigots masquerading as Catholics to draw people away from the True Faith.

Anyway, I in general dislike advertising. I will not get rid of it entirely, but will only run ads that I know are not contrary to the Faith and therefore I have more control of.

I may get some sort of PayPal thingy where readers can donate money if they like what they read, but that will be later on when I think about it more.

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A weakling and a failure

In today’s prayer from Universalis there is a fitting passage from the Old Testament that reaches out and gives hope to anyone who is caught in the despair and seemingly endless futility of an addiction:

Sirach 11:12-13: “Another goes his way a weakling and a failure, with little strength and great misery

Yet the eyes of the LORD look favorably upon him; he raises him free of the vile dust,

Lifts up his head and exalts him to the amazement of the many.”

(Via USCCB.)

We all felt this way. Weak, because it didn’t seem possible that we would ever be free of alcohol and/or drugs, and obviously a failure because of our wasted potential and opportunities. Quite often we would be reminded of these “facts” by the people around us.

Maintain hope in the midst of the burning and crashing disasters that surround you. Maintain hope despite yourself, for help from the Lord will arrive eventually.

There is a saying heard in the rooms of AA: “Don’t give up 5 minutes before the miracle happens.” You never know just when someone or something will happen to you that provides the light needed to see the way out. Often, the help seemingly comes from out of nowhere.

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Morning start

I ran across a quote from Dorothy Day, founder of the Catholic Worker Movement:

“My strength returns to me with my morning cup of coffee and reading of the Psalms.”

(Via Quotations Catholic.)

This is so true.

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Resolution: One Day at a Time

As we begin a new year soon, we are often reminded of the popular cultural custom of making resolutions for the rest of the year. Always intended to be a means for self-improvement, they are ultimately self-defeating. We more often than not fail to maintain our resolve for a new and better self because we do not have the endurance or discipline necessary to think in terms of an entire year.

And so as we learn in our recovery program, mostly 12 Step ones, that we must take things “one day at a time.” We can more easily comprehend the next 24 hours, or at least the stretch of hours until bedtime, than we can the next 365 days.

And therefore this is what we do. “Today I will not worry. I will worry about tomorrow when tomorrow comes.” Jesus says in Scripture:

Matthew 6:34: “Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself. Sufficient for a day is its own evil.”

(Via USCCB.)

Some things we remove from our options in dealing with others. Big things like drinking, murder, assault and rape. With regard to the rest: Have faith in the Lord. He will carry you through this day and the next. He did not bring you this far only to cast you aside before the race is over.

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Do not spurn a broken heart

Finally, in the 19th verse of Psalm 51, the penitent offers up themselves:

Psalm 51:19: “My sacrifice, God, is a broken spirit; God, do not spurn a broken, humbled heart.”

(Via USCCB.)

The penitent’s soul and very being is offered as a sacrifice. The penitent is stating that their entire self depends upon God for their happiness, and in order to maintain that union they are offering up as a sacrifice all that they are in repentance and conversion.

This is an utterly humble declaration. Some saints have stated that they are perfectly willing to be completely annihilated if it glorifies God more. An ultimate sacrifice for the beloved.

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No sacrifice

The 18th verse of Psalm 51 reminds us of the need for sincerity in repentance.

Psalm 51:18: “For you do not desire sacrifice; a burnt offering you would not accept.”

(Via USCCB.)

True repentance is needed as outward signs are insufficient. By outward signs I mean the actions that imply a changed behavior or a newfound piety. An inner conversion of one’s self is required for the conversion to work and for the penitent to remain on the path to Heaven. Sincerity and honesty is a key factor in this. The penitent needs to get to the root cause of the sin and work on eliminating it and maintain a firm purpose of amending one’s behavior.

In essence, the sacrifice is of oneself. The old, sinful person is sacrificed on the altar of conversion; the old, sinful ways are cast aside. While we will always sin, as no one can be completely free of the attachment to Earthly things and self-interest, we will try as best we can to avoid that which may make us susceptible to sin.

We have that responsibility to ourselves and those about us.

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Let the words pour forth

The 17th verse of Psalm 51 is also the beginning of the Church’s prayer day in the Divine Office (See the Universalis link at the top of the page, should be a yellowish bar.)

Psalm 51:17: “Lord, open my lips; my mouth will proclaim your praise.”

(Via USCCB.)

Every day the Church begins her prayer with a petition for the Lord to enable the prayerful to sing God’s praises. In this verse, the penitent continues to show their gratitude for the Lord’s work in their lives. A daily reminder for the penitent, as we all begin the day anew. And in our start each day, what do we remind ourselves? Gratitude and love for the Lord, Who saves us from ourselves. Each day is a new beginning, a new chance to grow closer to God, but also a new chance to mess things up again.

The practice of daily prayer, particularly in the beginning, enables us to start the day right, with a proper orientation to the divine.

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Rescue me

The 16th verse of Psalm 51 is about gratitude, in a fundamental and loving way:

Psalm 51:16: “Rescue me from death, God, my saving God, that my tongue may praise your healing power.”

The penitent fully realizes that life depends upon God, and only God can save them from death. I think the eternal death, damnation. The petitioner seeks to eventually arrive in Heaven and sing God’s praises for eternity.

The petitioner hopes to return the love God showed in forgiving the sinful past by praising (loving) God forever. The soul of the penitent will be in blissful union with its beloved, never to be parted.

Psalm 30:10-11: “What gain is there from my lifeblood, from my going down to the grave? Does dust give you thanks or declare your faithfulness? Hear, O LORD, have mercy on me; LORD, be my helper.'”

(All Scripture passages via USCCB.)

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I will teach

The series on Psalm 51 resumes…

The 15th verse of Psalm 51 illustrates one of the benefits to others of the penitent’s conversion:

Psalm 51:15: “I will teach the wicked your ways, that sinners may return to you.”

(Via USCCB.)

Because of the experience and happiness over their conversion, the penitent will go and teach others of this. We do not keep our experience to ourselves, we share it with others. Others will be brought closer to God and experience the same joy of forgiveness and re-union with the Lord. Although some may balk at the Psalmist’s use of the word “wicked”, it can be an accurate adjective for those who have strayed from the path of the Lord. The penitent clearly felt “wicked”, hence the depth of their remorse and desire for forgiveness.

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