Living the Message of Lourdes

Reblogged from last year:
Tomorrow is the Feast Day of Our Lady  of  Lourdes, commemorating the first apparition Our Lady to a young sheperdess, St. Bernadette Soubirous, in this date in Lourdes, France, 1858. You can learn all about it here: The official website of the Sanctuary of Our Lady of Lourdes as well as: Lourdes Sanctuary.

Given the significance of this Apparition to us alcoholics and addicts (recovered or not) I wrote an entire chapter on it in  “The Sober Catholic Way.” 

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From Chapter XVI: “Live the Message of Lourdes:”

How is the Apparition of Our Lady at Lourdes related to the Sober Catholic Way? We are sick people, regardless of the length of our sobriety. Our Lady of Lourdes is our special channel of healing graces. Jesus is the Divine Physician and He works through His Mother at Lourdes.

Furthermore, Our Lady told Bernadette several times about the need for penance. This strikes at the heart of who we are. For we have hurt and damaged others through the sins we committed against them during our active years of addiction. Penance is something we desperately need.

Therefore:

We should also willingly “take up our Crosses” and accept those trials, troubles, and tribulations that come into our lives every day and offer them up in reparation for our sins and those of others.

You could rephrase a part of that in Twelve Step language as a type of ‘making amends.’

And one last thing: it’s OUR FEAST DAY, TOO!!

Pope St. John Paul II had declared February 11th as the “World Day of the Sick,” a special day for healing Masses and prayers for anyone suffering from any illness, malady, or disability. It’s our feast day!

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Holy Face of Jesus Novena 2026!

An annual reminder:

The Holy Face Novena begins on Sunday, February 8th, so as to end on Monday, February 16th. The Feast of the Holy Face of Jesus is Tuesday, February 17th, 2026 (it is always the day before Ash Wednesday.)

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Novena prayers are listed at these sites:

The Holy Face Novena at The Holy Face Devotion dot org

There are THREE Novenas listed here: Holy Face Novena and Act of Consecration to the Holy Face at Illumina Domine

This is the one that I will be saying (as it’s also on a prayer card I use):

(Short Novena) Holy Face Novena Prayer by The Holy Man of Tours, Leo DuPont

O Lord Jesus Christ, in presenting ourselves before Your adorable Face, to ask of You the graces of which we stand most in need, we beseech You, above all, to give us that interior disposition of never refusing at any time to do what You require of us by Your Holy Commandments and Your Divine inspirations.

O Good Jesus, Who has said: “Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and it shall be opened to you,” give us, O Lord, that faith which obtains all, or supply in us what may be deficient. Grant us, by the pure effect of Thy Charity and for Thy eternal glory, the graces we need and which we look for from Thine infinite mercy. Amen.

Be merciful to us, O God, and reject not our prayers when, amid our afflictions, we call upon Your Holy Name and seek with love and confidence Your Adorable Face.

We thank You, O Lord, for all Thy benefits, and we entreat You to engrave in our hearts feeling of love and gratitude, putting upon our lips songs of thanksgiving to Your eternal praise. Amen.

HEAD’S UP: That last resource (Illumina Domine) has a really interesting post on something I never knew. 

Many Catholics are unaware of the fact that this millennium was dedicated to the Face of Christ by Pope St. John Paul II. He lifted high before the Church the banner of the Holy Face of Jesus at the dawn of the millennium. The Face of Christ was to be the standard for the faithful to follow in this spiritual battle that exists in the world between light and darkness.

You can read that wonderful post here: Pope St. John Paul II.

I have written before on the Holy Face Devotion. In The Holy Face Devotion: what we need for our times I said:

This Devotion is intended to make reparation for the sins of blasphemy against the Holy Name of God and the profanation of Sundays and Holy Days. In addition, it is to be a spiritual weapon against Communists.

I think it can, and should, be used as a spiritual weapon against right-wing extremism and not just Communism. Communism and Fascism are two sides of the same coin; both glorifybthe power of the State at the expense of God, and Fascism adds the glorification and near idol-worship of the leader it centers around.

You can apply the Holy Face Devotion to your alcoholism and addction recovery! Please read these two posts:

The Holy Face of Jesus Chaplet for Alcoholics and Addicts

Using the Holy Face Chaplet as a “sobriety’ or “recovery” chaplet

Resources on the Holy Face Devotion:

The Holy Face, Disfigured by Sin

Books on the Holy Face Devotion. And a chaplet.

A Prayer to the Holy Face from EWTN

The archive of posts on the Holy Face is here.

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2026 Online March for Life

Once again , we come to the annual March for Life in the USA. All human and civil rights begin in the womb; without the fundamental right to life as the foundation for all rights, justice is threatened at all stages of human life, from womb-to-tomb.
 
If you cannot make it to the March for Life in Washington, DC (or the West Coast version) you ca go online!

Join the Online March for Life: Baby Life Begins.

Baby Life Begins brings science and storytelling together to champion the humanity of preborn babies in the digital public square.
You can register for it here.
 
In addition, EWTN will be providing television coverage..
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2026 ONLINE Lent Retreat by The Pray More Retreat people

A friend of mine through a Militia of the Immaculata Virtual Village forwarded me a link to the 2026 Lent Retreat – The Pray More Retreat.  It’s offered by the same people behind the Pray More Novenas site. It’s ONLINE!!!

I signed up! Registrants are asked to pay a fee of their choice to help pay the speakers and other costs; but it’s totally optional. I registered for free and am opting to promote it in the hopes that one of you might sign up and donate!

The Retreat is self-paced.
This means that you can participate wherever you are and whenever you have the time.
It’s like a do-it-yourself retreat, but you’re not doing alone…

Sign up! You know I harp every year during Lent about ‘doing something’ to grow closer to Jesus; and how Lent is the perfect time! 

I went looking over the site: they have other retreats from previous years, and you can still sign up for them. UPDATE: Although I sugned up for these older retreats, I have not (YET) received an email with the links to access videos and downloadable materials. So perhaps they’re no longer accessible? (Curious as to why they’d leave all that information up; that’s a lot on data and they could just have a list of past retreats with brief summaries of topics to entice you for future ones…)

There’s the 2025 Healing Retreat (deals with anxiety, suffering, brokenness, and trust issues.)

They even have the 2024 Healing Retreat available! (more on healing, love, beatitudes, prayer.)

The last one I’ll bring up is the 2024 Eucharistic Retreat.

I will try to inquire about access to past retreats and edit or update thisn post as needed.

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BOOK REVIEW: “Encouraging Words to Live By: 365 Days of Hope for the Anxious and Overwhelmed” by Anne Costa

“Encouraging Words to Live By: 365 Days of Hope for the Anxious and Overwhelmed” by Anne Costa was published through The Word Among Us Press in 2019, and I wish I had it back then as it would have helped me better deal with anxiety and recurring feelings of being overwhelmed.

The book is aptly named.

What is it about? 

From the site blurb:

Feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or sad? Here is a collection of daily reflections that will lift your spirits and give you a sense of direction with reminders of God’s great love and acceptance. Drawing from Scripture, the wisdom of the saints, and pastoral expertise, Anne Costa has written a spiritual resource that will enable you to look upon each day with hope.

This book will help you (or a loved one) when overwhelmed by life or struggling with anxiety or depression to renew your connection with God and others.

Encouraging Words to Live By.

I began reading it this year (2026.) With the world and nation going increasingly insane and daily living threatened by the actions of stupid political leaders in ways previously unheard of (due to things being amplified by social media and 24/7 news channels) this book will provide a sane and soothing respite for the few minutes every day that you take to read and ponder the wisdom of Anne as well as from those sources she’s culled it from. You might even be inspired to grab your Bible afterwards and look up the Scripture passage.

My favorite day so far (and NOT the only one in my two weeks of reading) is the entry for January 5th. 

Excerpt: 

…How we talk to ourselves—the messages we send—can either feed or starve our souls. We shouldn’t let our inner chatter drown out the voice of God, who is love….

…Let the condemning thoughts die down like a distant echo and allow the whisper of the One who loves you fill your listening heart….

I think I need to place that page on my printer, make a copy, and tack it onto the wall next to me. I have mentioned at least once before about “inner voices” running me down. They typically sound like the voices of family members who had driven me to consider self-harm, but often it’s a generic voice not associated with any particular person. But it’s always a running critical commentary, but sometimes petty and ridiculous; like the source of the voice can’t come up with anything big so it resorts to something stupid. 

Each page has a quote from Scripture, followed by Anne’s “Encouraging Words,” basically a short inspirational passage she wrote, based on the Scripture passage and often tied to the liturgical feast of that day. The day’s reading concludes with a nice, short prayer. 

After I finish writing and publishing this review, I’m going to go back through the entries for January 1 through 16 and highlight certain passages, maybe scribble a note or underline with a pen.  I rarely do that, but when I do, it “annoints” the book with a sort of personal blessing. “This book is essential to my well-being” and “It’s important in helping me cope.” I’ll be keeping the highlighter and pen next to it. Within a few years the book will show evidence of heavy-duty highlighting, underlining, and annotating. There’s no entry for February 29: on that day I’ll just flip through and reread other days.

Where to get it:

The book’s page on Anne’s website: Encouraging Words to Live By on REVIVE Hope and Healing Ministries 

Through Amazon

Barnes and Noble (and check out the Nook sample!)

Or visit your nearby local bookshop (especially if you have a Catholic bookshop around!) and politely request that they carry it. Buy two, one for yourself and for someone you know.

Anne’s website is REVIVE Hope and Healing Ministries. They have a Prayer Community on Facebook. Check out her podcasts (DISCLAIMER: she interviewed me last year.  That DID NOT influence my review. If I didn’t like the book, I wouldn’t have reviewed it.) A full list of where you can listen is on Podbean. 

I hope you enjoy reading it! If you do, spread the word! People need this book!

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The Hail Mary as a Christocentric meditation

I was engaged in a debate on the r/catholicism subreddit regarding the propriety of the Hail Mary prayer, the Rosary, and devotion to Mary at all; since the poster felt it took away from reverence or attention properly due the Father and Jesus; and that we should just focus on saying the our Father, ‘as Jesus taught us.’ The poster felt that the Hail Mary wasn’t enough about Jesus and the Father.

 

While praying my daily Rosary I thought of another counterpoint to make to the poster, and felt that it would make a good post for Sober Catholic. It’s kind of like a meditation on the Hail Mary, with a Christocentric/Patercentric appeal. To make it obvious, I use all caps whenever God makes an appearance in the Hail Mary.

 

Hail Mary, Full of Grace (Mary is ‘full of grace’ only because she had to be so that the HOLY SPIRIT can overshadow her so as to conceive JESUS.)

the Lord is with you. (Who else is this referring to, but JESUS?)

Blessed are you among women; (She is only ‘blessed’ because she will be the Mother of GOD, a/k/a JESUS.)

and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus. (There is that JESUS person, again!)

 

Holy Mary, Mother of God; (JESUS, anyone!)

pray for us sinners, (Why are we sinners? Because we turned away from JESUS, who, if you read especially the Gospel of John, came to do the will of the FATHER. ‘Sin’ is when our actions are contrary to GOD’S will, pr when we abuse the natural gifts given to us by GOD.)

now, and at the Hour of our Death,

AMEN

 

Mary is referenced 6 times, while the Trinity is referenced or implied 8 times, as I count them. Now, multiply that by the number of beads on the Rosary. 

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You can see that the focus of the Hail Mary is less on Mary, but more of the Father and Jesus; it forms a perfect complement to the Our Father, thus making the Rosary an ideal form of devotion to the Father.

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Happy 19th Bloggaversary to Sober Catholic!

It was 19 years ago today, January 5, 2007 that I wrote my first post, Hi, I’m Paul, and I’m an alcoholic!.

I should be doing this for a few more years before winding things down. I plan on releasing a few more books. I am seriously considering starting a YouTube channel/podcast. The channel already exists, I have just never uploaded anything to it as it’s only been a channel I subscribe to other useful channels. Stay tuned here for further details, or, go the Sober Catholic Youtube and subscribe (and hit the bell icon for notifications for if and when I actually do start uploading videos.) I am doing the “legwork” necessary; I’ve written a few scripts already, and I’m studying how to use the software I have for making videos, recording voice and so on. All I have to do is follow up with “content.”

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LAST MINUTE NOVENA ANNOUNCEMENT! Novena to Mary, Undoer of Knots, Dec 23-31

I was scrolling past some YouTube “suggested channels” when I stumbled across the Divine Mercy For America Channel. I love the Divine Mercy devotion; it literally saved my life. Anyway, the channel announced that they will have their annual Mary, Undoer of Knots Novena. It seems to be an annual thing for them. (I must have missed this in the past.)

I might have written about the Undoer of Knots devotion in the past but I’m in a hurry to get this out so I’ll look for previous posts later. 

The Divine Mercy for America folks say that this annual year-end tradition (Dec 23-31!!) is great for clearing out the gunk from the past year (my words, not theirs, but the idea is the same. You can listen to them here: Join the Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots, Words on Screen, Dec 23 to Dec 31, Divine Mercy for America. (It’s the same link as the one posted in the “channel announced…”)

Here’s a screenshot of the video’s thumbnail:

 

Here are links to all nine days (the links should work, if not, just go to the link in the Join the. sentence above):

Day 1 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for Struggling Marriages

Day 2 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for those Struggling with Addictions

Day 3 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for Our Pastors

Day 4 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for Our Bishops.

Day 5 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for the Poor.

Day 6 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for Those Who Do Not Believe in God

Day 7 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for Christians Outside the Catholic Church

Day8 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for Our Holy Father the Pope

Day9 Novena to Mary Undoer of Knots – Praying for Our Personal Intentions

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Handmade Blessed Sacrament Chaplet from a recycled rosary

In this, the year of when I recycle rosaries, I chanced upon another opportunity. 

Some time ago I found in the junk box at my parish a really old rosary. Ornate. On the centerpiece medal was an image of the Sacred Heart and on the reverse side the words, ‘This is my body, this is my blood.” Whoah! So naturally, I grabbed it. It wasn’t until I got home that I discovered one of the decades was missing four beads. 

So I laid it aside until I got inspiration. After my three previous attempts at recycling broken rosaries into chaplets (see the link in the first sentence for my past recycling projects) I figured that since the centerpiece was very Eucharisticy, there should be a Eucharist chaplet or some other Christological chaplet I might convert it into. Nope, not until last night did I find an appropriate one (I hadn’t been looking too hard, before.) 

Here  are three images of it (they’re typically blurry, sorry):

The typical Blessed Sacrament Chaplet DOES NOT have the Crucifix, but I chose to add it. I don’t think Jesus would mind. 

Here’s the Sacred Heart image:

And, lastly, the wording:

If you want to know how to say the chaplet, please go to this Catholic Doors page.

I DO NOT MAKE THESE CHAPLETS FOR SALE, SO PLEASE DO NOT ASK FOR ONE. I just get a thrill recycling broken rosaries and I like sharing the results.

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On Mary as Mediatrix of All Graces

More thoughts on Mater Populi Fidelis. No one asked, but this is my blog so pfthpfth.

Jesus is the sole Redeemer and Mediator of all Humankind.

Mary, under her titles of co-Redeemer (Redemptrix) and co-Mediator (Mediatrix) is still a member of humanity; she is not a god, or demi-god. There’s God the Father, then, Jesus as the sole Mediator and Redeemer; and then, at the pinnacle of the human pile, Mary. She is not in any external position between humanity and Jesus.

By virtue of her Immaculate Conception is the most perfect and exalted member of humanity and because of that, she leads us to Jesus. What else can she do? That is how her Redemptrix and Mediatrix attributes (for lack of a better term) are worked out. She leads us to Jesus and intercedes for us with Him.

Although I still like that document, I wish the author’s perspective was more like that. It wouldn’t fundamentally change the document, but it might have stepped on fewer conservative/traditionalist toes and also might have set up the conditions that would enable a future Pope to formally declare Mary as Co-Redeemer and Co-Mediatrix as the final Marian dogma. Coming from the perspective I described above, it would have encouraged further thinking and discussion, leading towards greater acceptance of the dogma. 

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